Men often benefit the most from therapy, yet they are the most likely to resist it.
I want women—as mothers, wives, partners, and daughters—to understand that much of my work focus is with men. Men often believe they must appear powerful, seeking approval or keeping others at a distance to avoid being helped or hurt. This "tough" exterior often covers deeper feelings of insecurity and inadequacy.
The Growth Sequence
Human development occurs in a specific order: One comes before two. We are boys first, and men second.
If you do not honor "boy" feelings, you stay stuck there—looking man-like on the outside, but posturing to cover what is felt inside.
Confidence Must Be Earned
Men wish to feel strong and powerful, but they often dismiss the "bad" feelings required for growth. To feel better about yourself, you must learn to process all emotions; two halves make a whole.
This is why clients can sometimes feel worse when they begin therapy—their emotional system is finally growing as one unit.
"If pain could talk, it would say that it is okay to ask for and receive help."
— Dr. David K. Cox
For men, half of achieving personal growth and confidence is redefining their problems. By giving yourself permission to receive help, you move toward a deeper, quiet internal confidence. I can help you do that.